Milan community comes together to grieve and ask questions following student's suicide
As the Milan High School community copes with the third student's death since October, Superintendent Bryan Girbach said he wants everyone to know the district is there for its students.
Eric Harrison, a 17-year-old Milan High School senior, committed suicide Sunday, Girbach said. Harrison’s death prompted district officials to call a community meeting Monday night at the high school’s theater.
Girbach said the number of deaths this year has been extremely unusual, but Milan Area Schools has been putting its crisis response plans into action. He said counselors and other school officials met with students continuously Monday, and will do so for the rest of this week. Students who would like additional counseling will be offered weekly sessions.
“It’s not usual, but it’s important to know that we’re prepared for it and we’ve handled it and we’re there for our students,” he said.
Members of the media were asked not to attend the community meeting but met with Girbach for about 30 minutes prior to the meeting.
Girbach said Harrison’s death has not officially been ruled a suicide by the medical examiner, but Harrison’s father had confirmed — and asked Girbach to make known — that it was a suicide.
The other two students who have died during the school year were community education student Brian Copaciu, a high school senior whose death in October was ruled a suicide, and high school junior William Bowers, whose December death is still under investigation. Information the school district has received points to Bower's death being accidental, officials said.
The district also held a community meeting after Copaciu's death.
Girbach said there doesn't seem to be a connection between the students’ deaths. The students were in different social circles, and the details surrounding the deaths were different, he said. Girbach said the deaths had very little to do with the school environment, but he would not elaborate.
The parking lots at Milan High School were full Monday night prior to the 7 p.m. meeting as members of the community filed into the high school theater.
Jim and Vickey Priest attended the meeting as concerned parents of high school children.
“For the most part, our concern is, ‘Is there something going on?’” Jim Priest said. “It’s a bigger picture thing.”
The Priests send their children to the Milan school district through schools of choice because they live outside the district. Vickey Priest said she was concerned about the prospect of bullying being a problem at the school — something Girbach said played no role in the deaths of any of the three students to his knowledge.
“With the bullying that’s happening in the national news, we want to make sure it’s not something that’s happening here,” she said.
Girbach said many of the phone calls he received throughout the day stemmed from misinformation spread through social networks and rumors among students. He said that was one of the reasons the district called the meeting.
“Students are grasping to understand,” he said, adding that rumors of drugs being involved in any of the deaths were baseless. “None of them mean to be detrimental, and they’re grasping for an understanding and they want to build a reality that would help them heal.”
One of the first groups the district brought together Monday morning was the Milan High School basketball program; Harrison played on the varsity basketball team. Harrison’s younger brother also plays basketball for the school.
Girbach said the decision to cancel Tuesday’s games against Saline High School was reached after consulting the teams and seeing whether they wanted to play. He said canceling the game was the best decision until Harrison’s family was able to make funeral arrangements.
“Kids can go either way,” he said. “They may have felt it would have been an honor to play in his name or they may have felt they just weren’t ready.”
He said it's unlikely any more games will be canceled, simply to give the team members a sense of normalcy. He said that's one of the most important things for all of the school’s approximately 1,000 students to reclaim.
Girbach praised the Milan community for coming together during a time of crisis. He said he received phone calls from about 10 local pastors by about 9 a.m. Monday, offering their support. The district also called in the Traumatic Events Response Network of Washtenaw County.
Although the community is grieving, he said it's inspiring to see Milan come together.
“I guess I don’t know what it would be like to not have that support because that’s just what Milan does when we have a crisis, we pull together,” he said.
Kyle Feldscher covers K-12 education for AnnArbor.com. He can be reached at kylefeldscher@annarbor.com.
Comments
Edward Vielmetti
Wed, Feb 9, 2011 : 8:07 p.m.
A comment was removed because it alleged that there had been multiple suicides at the principal's previous school, which I could not confirm.
Jill S
Wed, Jan 5, 2011 : 5:59 a.m.
Sad story about a family that continues to suffer. My thoughts and prayers are with the family and community.
Jennell
Tue, Jan 4, 2011 : 5:52 p.m.
yes the boys that were murdered were tim harrisons (the father of eric) those were his younger brothers
Susan Cerniglia
Tue, Jan 4, 2011 : 3:10 p.m.
The Washtenaw County link cited in the article is returning an error message. We are working to correct it. Please visit: www.washtenawalive.org directly, or use this link for a more comprehensive list of services: http://www.ewashtenaw.org/government/departments/community_mental_health/emergency-community-response - Susan Cerniglia, Washtenaw County Public Health
AFSPannarbor
Tue, Jan 4, 2011 : 9:30 a.m.
As a 2004 graduate of Milan High School, a field advocate for the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, and the co-chair for the Ann Arbor Out of the Darkness Suicide Prevention Walk, my heart goes out to the families and friends of the students who have been lost. I think that it is important for everyone to remember that there is never a right way to handle the loss of a friend or loved one and that everyone is going to grieve differently. We all have different ways of seeking comfort and remembering our loved ones; the important thing is to do what feels right for you. I encourage all of you to learn the warning signs of suicide so we can prevent this from happening again. Saving a life is more important than violating a confidence, so please don't keep it a secret - if you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts please ask for help. For more information please check out the AFSP website: www.afsp.org You can also become a fan of the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention Ann Arbor page on Facebook which periodically posts suicide prevention news and updates as well as information that you can use to help save lives. You can also post on this page to share words of encouragement for those who are struggling with a recent loss or post a message in honor of a loved one. I would also like to invite anyone who is interested in doing more to become a member of the planning committee for the Ann Arbor Out of the Darkness walk which takes place every September. We meet once a month starting in February-March. If you are interested in more information please contact me at AFSPAnnArbor@gmail.com. And if you are not able to help us plan the event, we would still love for you to join us. A major goal of this event is to show support for the families and friends of the 33,000 Americans who die by suicide each year and the 20 million people who suffer from depression. The walk is designed to help erase the stigma surrounding suicide and its causes, encourage those who are suffering from mental illness to seek treatment and also helps to raise funds for suicide prevention research and educational programs in the Ann Arbor area and around the country. You can contact me at AFSPAnnArbor@gmail.com with any other questions that you may have or if you would like more information about suicide and its causes. And remember: The more people we can educate about suicide the more lives we can save but change can only occur if it is driven by the collective action of individuals. Together we can make suicide prevention a priority. Together we can make a difference. Change starts with you!
conlippert
Tue, Jan 4, 2011 : 8:45 a.m.
Such a terrible loss-My prayers for the Harrison family.
Marilyn
Tue, Jan 4, 2011 : 8:30 a.m.
ypsigirl, yes it is. They are all my cousins. Please keep our family in your thoughts and prayers.
afunfootballmom
Tue, Jan 4, 2011 : 6:19 a.m.
This is such a very sad story for the community as well as the family. They have had a lot of loss in their past. @ ypsigirl...yes one of the boys that died in the 80's would have been the uncle to the boy that died this week.
ypsigirl
Tue, Jan 4, 2011 : 12:21 a.m.
Is the HArrison boy any relation to the HArrison family who lost the 2 young men to the murders back in the early 80's? Both those boys were also from Milan.
Macabre Sunset
Mon, Jan 3, 2011 : 10:13 p.m.
There are never good answers. Hopefully, their friends know this was just about impossible to prevent or predict.