Ann Arbor woman attends home and away U-M basketball games for 39 years
Joseph Tobianski | AnnArbor.com
Who would do such a thing? There were some great teams during that time, true, but many that you wouldn’t make the short trip to Crisler Arena to see, let alone drive to State College or West Lafayette or Iowa City.
Meet Dottie Day.
Even as a 5-year-old, basketball and schoolwork already were big in her life. She had to finish her homework (that is, coloring) before she could go with her family and extended family to high school basketball games or whatever sport was in season.
When she grew up and left her parent’s dairy and crop farm in Clarklake, south of Jackson, to attend U-M in 1963, she was terrified of the big city. But she found a familiar environment in working the concessions booths for hockey and basketball at the Coliseum and Yost Field House. She always tried to position herself so she could catch glimpses of the game, or at least of the scoreboard.
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Before C.J. Kupec, the center on the freshman basketball team in 1971-72 came to campus and changed her life, Dottie had graduated and began working as a learning specialist at the U-M Department of Psychiatry with kids and teenagers with needs ranging from eating disorders to autism to major depression. She helped with their school work, the goal being to motivate them and increase their self esteem to the point that they knew they were capable of learning, and even enjoying it.
"I absolutely loved those kids," she said, "and the challenge of helping the most difficult succeed. It was wonderful when something clicked and they began to learn. They would tell me they didn’t know it could be so easy." Dottie augmented her teaching degree with a masters in reading and one in special education. She said throughout 44 years there were only three youths she felt she couldn’t reach. She retired in October 2012.
Meanwhile, Kupec had impressed Dottie with his basketball smarts and his all-around game. He eventually impressed others, too, and became an All-America. "When he is a senior, I am going to all of his games," she told herself. And she did.
"I saved my money and my vacation time in order to travel to away games," she said. "Then I did it again the next year. And the next year. I didn’t plan it that way. It just happened."
She hasn’t missed a game since, except for three in 1976 when her mother died, two in 1996 when her father died, and half of the 2007 season when she was "placed on the disabled list" for foot reconstruction. She tried to get the doctor to delay it until after the season, but no luck.
In the early days, when the athletic department finances were tighter, Dottie, and sometimes others, traveled on the team plane and bus as a way to supplement department funds. She got to know the coaches, including Johnny Orr, Jim Dutcher, Bill Frieder, and Brian Ellerbe, and she still talks often with Steve Fisher and Brian Dutcher.
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Back in Ann Arbor, many of the players had dinner at Dottie’s, and she organized team bowling outings. At the end of the season, she was with them in the locker room as March Madness pairings were announced. And because she became part of the team, each year the coaches and seniors made sure the freshmen were introduced to her.
"That’s what I miss the most," she said. "Yes, the transportation was convenient, but what I really, really miss is getting to know the kids better. Now, it’s more like seeing them for a few minutes in a hotel lobby or after a game."
She does get a hug from each of the players just before the game, though,
In 1979, Frieder asked her to sit behind the players’ bench at home games. You can still spot her there with her sister or a friend in the midst of the "maize rage." When everyone is jumping, look for the one who is at least jumping on the inside.
Dottie won’t tell you who her favorites have been because they are all "my kids." But if you want to know what a former player is doing now, chances are she knows.
Don’t expect her to talk statistics, though. That has never been her focus. "The kids are people, not numbers on a jersey or stats on a scoreboard," she said.
Asked if the players think she is crazy for doing what she does, she says, "I don’t know. They may wonder why I do it. My friends are the ones who think I am loony - that is until I get them to go with me. Then they get it."
For Dottie, the reasons are simple. "I love - just love - the University of Michigan," she said. "I love the game of basketball, and I really love kids that age, anywhere from teens to mid-20s. They keep me young — it’s fun for me.
"Besides, I enjoy competition and the psychological aspects of the game. I want to be the best at everything I do, and want my team to be the best. When they lose, I want to see if they will bounce back; and when they win, I want to see how they handle it."
Dottie’s fun does require work, however. For example, drive time to Champaign for the Illinois game is six hours. She allows herself two extra hours in case of traffic or weather or other delay, enough leeway so that she is at the hotel to greet the team when they arrive.
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Funny thing is, she hates to drive. She was glad for the many years that Carl (Bud) and Florence Ernst traveled with her. Bud preferred to drive. Then when Pat Hatch, whose father, Henry, was the U-M equipment manager for 42 years, retired from teaching, she accompanied Dottie to every away game for more than 20 years and shared the driving.
"My rule of thumb has always been that if the trip is longer than a 24-hour drive one way, I will fly," Dottie said. "I may lower that number since travel is getting more difficult. But I don’t have any plans to stop soon; I would like to die at a basketball game."
Now that Dottie has been doing this for so many years, she can’t imagine stopping. She said she would wonder, ‘Will the kids think I forgot about them? Will they know I’m not there? Will they miss me?"
This is her family, after all, and she feels that her presence and support makes a difference, at least to some of the individuals if not to the team as a whole.
"One of my most prized possessions," she said, "is a letter from a walk-on written during his senior year. Part of it read,‘It seems to be your goal to make us all feel important to you. You succeeded with me.’"
For Dottie, that’s a good return on her money. She realizes she has chosen an expensive hobby. ‘Had I not chosen it, I could be living in a mansion instead of where I am. But I have no regrets."
P.S. What does she think of the 2012-13 squad? "I love this team. The first time I saw them, I said, ‘Well. We might have something here.’ They are unselfish, they truly like each other, and are willing to give up the ball for each other. They are a diverse, interesting group, and can go a long, long way."
Bob Horning is a lifelong Ann Arbor resident who writes U-M sports human interest stories for AnnArbor.com. If you have ideas for future columns, please email news@annarbor.com.
Comments
Lets Get Real
Mon, Feb 25, 2013 : 8:46 p.m.
Not sure who all the people are who wrote things that were unprintable, but come on now - this is a nice lady, a great fan, who supports Michigan Athletics - unlike most fair weather fans. Give her credit. She does something she loves, she is dedicated and committed, and it hurts no one. Go Blue, Dottie!
cjh
Mon, Feb 25, 2013 : 11:27 a.m.
All of the Day women are wonderful. My kids and I both have had the privilege of having Day sisters as teachers growing up. Diane, Darlene and Dottie Day are all wonderful people in general and OUTSTANDING teachers. Dottie is indeed one of the biggest University of Michigan basketball fans and more importantly for these kids she is kind, loving, intelligent and caring. GO BLUE FOR DOTTIE!!!!!!!!!
Julia Mattucci-Clark
Mon, Feb 25, 2013 : 6:01 a.m.
I love this woman! God Bless Her!
justcurious
Sun, Feb 24, 2013 : 8:32 p.m.
Thanks for an introduction to this fine lady. May she enjoy many, many more games.
81wolverine
Sun, Feb 24, 2013 : 6:57 p.m.
" I would like to die at a basketball game." Holy smokes - now THAT's a dedicated Michigan fan! Not a shred of fair weather fan in Dottie. Most of us could learn a big lesson from her.
rhonda
Sun, Feb 24, 2013 : 6:51 p.m.
hooray a GOOD NEWS story and main character worthy of the cover!!! Way to go Dottie!!
Macabre Sunset
Sun, Feb 24, 2013 : 5:25 p.m.
Strange that a comment that this story needs quotes from players/coaches before it's complete was deleted. The delicate sensibilities of those who run this blog are becoming even more sensitive. Perhaps they should find another profession, like volunteer hugger at the Humane Society.
Ann23
Mon, Feb 25, 2013 : 4:37 a.m.
I think they are pretty understanding. I have posted some stupid stuff, especially when I am feeling grouchy. And, I actually appreciated some of it being deleted and wished another was. Hugs are good.
Kyle Mattson
Sun, Feb 24, 2013 : 6:18 p.m.
Sounds like you could use a hug today Macabre. We're here for you if you ever need one.
Oscar Lavista
Sun, Feb 24, 2013 : 3:46 p.m.
Awesome!
Paul Wiener
Sun, Feb 24, 2013 : 3:35 p.m.
Gee, and I thought I'd accomplished something by brushing my teeth for the last 67 years!
a2cents
Sun, Feb 24, 2013 : 3:22 p.m.
no thanks, unimpressed
81wolverine
Sun, Feb 24, 2013 : 6:58 p.m.
If you're not impressed in some way by this story a2cents, then most likely nothing else does either. Too bad.
Kyle Mattson
Sun, Feb 24, 2013 : 6:31 p.m.
We all have our areas of personal interest in life a2c, be it loyally following a sports team, indulging in a lifelong hobby, or even being a habitual commenter on websites. No matter what that area of dedication is there most likely someone out there who will find that spending so much time focusing on one thing it a bit odd. Personally, I find Dolly's story quite the example of a true fan versus being a fair weather one and applaud her for supporting her team throughout the years.
WTS
Sun, Feb 24, 2013 : 2:32 p.m.
Great to see you on screen, Dottie. You remain fondly in our memories. You are always our favorite "BLUEblood!" Tom and Pat Schomaker
kay
Sun, Feb 24, 2013 : 2:17 p.m.
When I grow up I want to be Dottie Day.
Craig Lounsbury
Sun, Feb 24, 2013 : 2:14 p.m.
thats some serious dedication.
dexterologist
Sun, Feb 24, 2013 : 2:01 p.m.
Now I know who they all hug before the game.
vintagetimes4me
Sun, Feb 24, 2013 : 1:36 p.m.
This was a GREAT READ on this Sunday morning. I admire this lady for many reasons. The biggest being her ability to follow her heart. If we all took a lesson on this the world would be a much happier place! Keep doing what you love Dottie --- you are still teaching by just living your life.
Pinckneyite
Sun, Feb 24, 2013 : 1:36 p.m.
Wonderful story about a great fan. I will be waving at you today, Dottie, from across the arena!